5 Steps to Getting What You Want in Life

Do you want to live your dreams? Do you know what those dreams are? Do you know the three areas of your life that will help you achieve your dreams?

There are only three areas of your life where you need to take action if you want to have an incredible life: health, wealth, and relationships. If you set goals in these three areas of your life and then achieve them, you can get rich, achieve life fitness, and have the fantastic relationships you want.

Regardless of which areas of your life you want to set goals and achieve success, the action plan is the same. Below you will find the steps you need to take to set your goals and reach your dreams.

1. Decide what you want out of life.

This is one of the hardest things in life to do. No one ever asked me when I was growing up what I wanted out of life so I didn't know. I didn't have any idea how to decide that either. I believe we each have a mission and purpose in life we are each here to fulfill. In order to do that, you have to know what you want because what you want is tied to your mission and purpose, "the desires of your heart." Write down three things you want to have in the three major areas of life: health, wealth, and relationships. Be as specific as possible.

2. Determine any obstacles you have and decide how to eliminate them.

Having the right mindset is absolutely crucial to your success. If you believe you are not capable of achieving your dreams, or you believe you don't deserve it, then you will find some way to sabotage your efforts. It's important to root out these beliefs. Once you do this, then those beliefs need to be replaced with the right beliefs. Meditation, changing your beliefs, and exercise help you change the way you feel about yourself.

3. Make a plan of action for attaining your goals.

Choose three goals, one for each area of your life: health, wealth, relationships. Maybe you have success in one or two of these areas, but you don't have success in the third one. Consider choosing just one goal. It's important to choose goals throughout your life. Challenge is what helps us keep our enthusiasm for life.

4. Take action.

You don't have to have a perfect or complete plan, just a basic set of steps to help you get started. Once you get started, you can always add additional steps. What's important here is to make sure you ask yourself if the steps you are adding are really necessary for succeeding at your goals.

5. Reevaluate to see if what you are doing is working.

Feedback is also important. If what you are doing isn't working, then it's important to try something else. Imitating those who have already successfully achieved those things you want to achieve can help you succeed faster.

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Addiction To Getting Things Done

There are many addictive ways that most of us have learned to avoid our painful feelings, and focusing on getting things done is often one of these ways.

It's not that there is anything wrong with getting things done. Most of us have a lot that we need to do and we may feel stressed when we don't get done what we need to do. It is certainly not addictive to make lists and be self-disciplined enough to follow through on our lists.

Whether or not it is addictive depends on your intent. If your intent is to be a responsible self-disciplined adult, then getting things done is healthy, loving action toward yourself. But when your intent is to use your list and obsessively getting things done as a way to avoid responsibility for your feelings, then it becomes addictive.

Ryan was addicted to getting things done. Each morning he would make his list and then obsessively focus on crossing everything off. If his children needed something from him - too bad. He was busy. If his wife needed help - well she would have to find it elsewhere. He was too busy. If he felt alone, sad, empty inside or lonely, focusing on his list was the way he avoided these difficult feelings.

At the end of the day, Ryan wondered why he didn't feel fulfilled - why he felt so empty inside. As we explored his addiction to getting things done in our Skype session, Ryan said, "My lists make me feel safe from feelings."

Safe from feelings. Why did Ryan need to feel safe from feelings? What was so unsafe about feeling his feelings?

Actually, I understood why his feelings felt unsafe. When I was growing up in my family, painful feelings were avoided at all costs. Because my parents had no healthy ways of managing their painful feelings, they also could not handle mine. I was rejected if I felt anything but happy. My mother managed her painful feelings with anger at me and my father, while my father managed his painful feelings by shutting down.

Ryan had a similar experience as he was growing up. His mother managed her painful feelings with incessant self-judgment, while his father numbed out, shutting down his feelings. Of course, Ryan learned to do the same things - judging his feelings and shutting down to them. However, because he didn't want to end up poor like his parents, he also learned to use lists and getting things done as a way of avoiding his feelings. While this worked for him to create a successful business, it did not work to create inner peace, joy or successful relationships with his wife and children.

Anything can become an addiction - depending on your intent. When your intent is to avoid responsibility for your feelings - rather than learn Inner Bonding and practice learning from your feelings rather than avoiding them - you will find many addictive ways of avoiding.

Learning to compassionately embrace all painful feelings, with acceptance toward them and the intent to learn from them, is what you need to do to move beyond being addicted to getting things done or to any other addictive way of avoiding your feelings.

Start today by practicing being compassionately present in your body with your feelings, embracing all feelings as informational. Imagine your feelings as a child within who needs compassionate acceptance rather than judgment.

Instead of rejecting that child, welcome him or her as valuable to you, a source of inner guidance regarding whether you are being loving or unloving toward yourself, whether others are being loving or unloving with you, or whether a situation is safe or unsafe for you. If you practice this consistently, you will find your addiction to getting things done, as well as many other addictions, falling away.

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?" and "Healing Your Aloneness." She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® healing process. Learn Inner Bonding now! Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com/ or email her at margaret@innerbonding.com. Phone sessions available.

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