The Power of Forgiveness - 5 Steps to Get Rid of Anger and Unforgiveness

It is common for people to harbor anger about someone in their lives. The reasons for anger may vary from person to person, but usually what is common about all of them is that the people feeling the anger cannot let themselves to forgive and forget. For some people, this anger may stem from serious issues such as abuse or assault while in others it may be due to minor issues. If you harbor anger towards a particular person in your life, it may be time to forgive.

There are many reasons why you may hold on to the anger. You may think that you are hurting the person by being angry. But does it really hurt the other person? No, it does not. It only hurts you. So why hold on to anger? It is better to get rid of the anger within yourself and forgive. Here are 5 steps to help you on your path to true forgiveness.

1. Examine why you are angry

There must be a reason why you are angry at someone. Unless you are dealing with an issue of assault or abuse, it may be difficult for you to pinpoint the real reason of anger. Once you find what that root cause is, you can go about finding the solution to deal with it. Think about ways to make the situation better. If it is possible, try to find positive things about the person instead of focusing on the negative. If you find it intolerable to be with the person, think about what you can do avoid him for a short time.

2. Don't be the Victim

When you hold on to the anger against someone, you are the victim. To stop being the victim any longer, you have to think about what you learnt from your experience with the concerned person. When you decide to learn from the experience, not only do you grow as a person, you also allow yourself to stop the vicious cycle of unforgiveness and resentment.

3. Letting it Go

After you decide that the bad experience with a specific person is something you have learnt from, you have to let it all go. For this, you need to tell yourself again and again that what happened is past and nothing will make it affect your present and future.

4. Meditate

Think about the person you want to forgive in a meditative state. Allow yourself to think about him with compassion in your heart.

5. Pray to God

Turn the whole thing over to God and ask him to allow you to not be the judge of that person.

I would recommend you to follow above mentioned tips and give way to peace in your life by getting rid of anger and forgiveness.

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10 Steps To Living An Authentic Life

Living life authentically is so important to being happy and content with who you are. You have the opportunity in life to create a path that is true to yourself and your visions and values. There are ten steps that I have found that can help you realize an authentic life.

Be true to yourself - Liberate yourself from the internal generated pressure to so the things we should do and instead focus on the things that is priorities because we value them

Evaluate Change - Change can be scary and it is in our natural to resist change. When we approach change with fear and what we will lose we can justify and rationalize our current behavior to avoid changing. We naturally want the place that was comfortable and familiar. When we are looking at change in our lives we need to remember what we stand to gain, what will be lost it we remain in the current state.

Choose a career path that fits your personal values and goals - Reflecting and choosing a career path that aligns with your values and goals creates a foundation for happiness and effectiveness. This does require thinking about these goals and could mean realigning your life to be in a career that is aligned with your values and goals. Change is good if it takes you on the path to contentment.

Honor yourself for who you are strengths and weakness alike - Your strengths and weakness make up who you are as a person. Being aware of these and appreciating ourselves for these is important to finding your real self. If you love, honor and tolerate yourself, you will be more tolerant of others. You will be able to handle stress easier and will be able to resolve problems better. Honoring yourself means you do not need to struggle for others approval. When you let go of the shoulds and accept who you are you gain control of your life.

Seek Progress, Not Perfection - How you conduct yourself on the journey of life is truly your decision. It is not defined only by your success but also by your failures. Our journey to learn and develop must include both wins and losses', learning is about making mistakes and forgiving ourselves for these mistakes, learning from them and moving towards our goals. When we were toddlers we fell many times before mastering the art of walking. Give yourself a break and realize that you are not perfect.

Welcome Mistakes and Failures as Opportunities - Failure is important in in giving us data. We can learn from what went wrong, move on and prevent it from happening again. This does take looking back and evaluating failures to see what the lesson learned was and then looking for solutions for preventing this in the future. The important part about mistakes and failures is that we need to look, learn and then move one and forgive ourselves for not being perfect.

Live Everyday consistent with your values and visions - None us know what will happen to us tomorrow so it is important to live every day in a life that reflects our values and visions. Living life in your terms can create an environment that makes life a wonderful place to be. This could mean that you have put off traveling for years and it has been your vision to travel. Now is the time to start making that happen. You may want to go back to school the choice to do this is your but today is as good a day as any to start the process.

Be Open to Spontaneity and unforeseen opportunity - Trying to control every aspect of your life can get exhausting. Living your life aligned with your visions and values does not mean that every move will be planned out precisely but that you are living life based on these and are flexible in creating the future. Spontaneity can give you a great sense of freedom and joy. If your plans are too rigid it can create unnecessary pressures and stress, preventing you from looking at unforeseen opportunities. It's important to have unstructured time and preserve some freedoms in your life. Uncertainty may feel uncomfortable but can be the gateway to growth and development.

Have a Support System - Your relationship should be ones that support you as a person. Creating a circle of people that accept you and love you for who you are is important to growth. If you do not have this support system find one or two. Coaching can help to keep you on track to realize your goals and aspirations. The key is to have people that support you and can help you see the clear picture for you. A support system encourages, challenges and supports you to make decisions that are right for you.

Realize You Always Have A Choice - It is important to take responsibility for yourself and recognize that you are always making choices, even when you tell yourself you are being pressured or forced by outside influences. Make deliberate choices, act on the basis of judgment rather than habit or assumption.

The choice is yours to live your life by others visions and values or chose a life that is authentic to you. We are all individuals and with this come the choice to live according to what will create the environment for happiness for us as individuals. This comes from understanding and marching to our own drummer. The choice is yours.

Susan Hagen is a Transformational Coach that teaches these and other techniques to reach your goals in life. Connect through E Mind Design to find out more about transforming your life http://www.eminddesign.com/#!transformational-coaching/c18jm

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5 Steps to Getting What You Want in Life

Do you want to live your dreams? Do you know what those dreams are? Do you know the three areas of your life that will help you achieve your dreams?

There are only three areas of your life where you need to take action if you want to have an incredible life: health, wealth, and relationships. If you set goals in these three areas of your life and then achieve them, you can get rich, achieve life fitness, and have the fantastic relationships you want.

Regardless of which areas of your life you want to set goals and achieve success, the action plan is the same. Below you will find the steps you need to take to set your goals and reach your dreams.

1. Decide what you want out of life.

This is one of the hardest things in life to do. No one ever asked me when I was growing up what I wanted out of life so I didn't know. I didn't have any idea how to decide that either. I believe we each have a mission and purpose in life we are each here to fulfill. In order to do that, you have to know what you want because what you want is tied to your mission and purpose, "the desires of your heart." Write down three things you want to have in the three major areas of life: health, wealth, and relationships. Be as specific as possible.

2. Determine any obstacles you have and decide how to eliminate them.

Having the right mindset is absolutely crucial to your success. If you believe you are not capable of achieving your dreams, or you believe you don't deserve it, then you will find some way to sabotage your efforts. It's important to root out these beliefs. Once you do this, then those beliefs need to be replaced with the right beliefs. Meditation, changing your beliefs, and exercise help you change the way you feel about yourself.

3. Make a plan of action for attaining your goals.

Choose three goals, one for each area of your life: health, wealth, relationships. Maybe you have success in one or two of these areas, but you don't have success in the third one. Consider choosing just one goal. It's important to choose goals throughout your life. Challenge is what helps us keep our enthusiasm for life.

4. Take action.

You don't have to have a perfect or complete plan, just a basic set of steps to help you get started. Once you get started, you can always add additional steps. What's important here is to make sure you ask yourself if the steps you are adding are really necessary for succeeding at your goals.

5. Reevaluate to see if what you are doing is working.

Feedback is also important. If what you are doing isn't working, then it's important to try something else. Imitating those who have already successfully achieved those things you want to achieve can help you succeed faster.

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