Stop Being a People Pleaser - It's Time To Focus on Your Own Needs

Are you a people pleaser? Do you try to attend other peoples' needs, instead of your own needs and end up pleasing no one? Everyone is responsible to meet the needs of people around him but this concept should not be pushed to an unhealthy level.

According to a recent research, the habit of pleasing people can adversely affect relationships, work and quality of life.

The habit of pleasing everyone is often cultivated since childhood and most of the times it is due to critical parents and chaotic families. Children grown in such families believe that the only way to happiness is getting approval from everyone.

A person can break this vicious circle of being good to everyone by learning to communicate their own needs to others in a healthy manner. It is very important to be respectful of others while communicating your thoughts and needs. It can take some practice to draw a line between our own desires and demands of others. You will need some time to get your life back on track but one can become a much better person by understanding his needs and attending his own priorities.

It is a smart idea ask help from a consultant or a close friend. You need someone to identify the things which are holding you back in your life. It is very not important to find the situations where you are not assertive. This can help you to get to the root of the problem.

One should always learn to speak for himself. Don`t talk as a second person. Try to take responsibility for what you are doing or feeling.

First of all you need to please yourself. Ask yourself about your needs and desires and wait for the answer.

Learn to say "NO". The biggest problem of insecure people is that they cannot say no to others. You should not make excuses but give solid reasons for not doing something.

Try to do the things your way and practice not worrying about what everybody else will think about it. You can listen to others but at the end, your choice should matter. Always remember that you will never reach your full potential by doing everything according to the people around you.

If you have been a "people pleaser" for a long time then it`s time to shift your focus from others to yourself. The transition is difficult but it can influence your life in a positive manner.

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Circulate, Create and Magnetize Transformation: 3 Mistakes People Make in a Life Transition

Let's face it, transitions, large and small are a part of life and determine your character. Any transition gives you an opportunity to run away or embrace life. Often, fear is the common reaction, but it doesn't have to be. Do you perceive a transition in your life as pressure or opportunity? Your perception and perspective with each transition does determine whether your life is easy or hard. The good news is there are strategies to implement and simplify your life and strengthen you in any life transition.

Here are three mistakes people make when going through a Life Transition.

1. Do you wish or will away a life transition or change?

The simplest remedy is to know and embrace the idea that change is inevitable. Big or small changes happen every day in nature and in your life. Before getting emotionally entangled or being derailed from your life...

Stop and breathe deep.
Be present with yourself and continue to breathe deep to get calm and centered.
Now choose, decide and intend what action is necessary for resolution.

2. Do you see the change not only as a problem but also a problem bigger than you?

This guarantees you to stay stuck in the problem. When you see the transition as a problem bigger than you, it leaves you incapable of moving forward and acting clearly.

Breathe Deep.
Validate any feelings or emotions arising inside you by writing them down. It is critical for you to allow your feelings to flow freely without any censorship.
Now let your feelings go. This frees you to see and act from clarity. Continue to acknowledge and let go of any feelings that arise.
Remember to always take a deep breath and stay in action before, in the middle of and after any transition.

3. Do you believe transition = starting over.

A transition is an opportunity to stretch beyond whatever you think possible. You are not starting over. You are moving into a new phase of something that you already have experienced. Although on the outset it may feel new, give yourself a moment to view what is before you with a clear eye and perspective.

Stretch and use a successful life experience to guide you through what is currently facing you.
Use deep breath, facing your emotions, previous successes and action to move you into a new clearing in your life.
Anytime you are faced with what feels like a 'new, insurmountable' experience, greet it with gratitude and joy. The gratitude and joy will spark your creativity and self-knowledge to know exactly what you need to do now.

Remember we all experience change in our life on a daily basis. Transitions, big or small are merely an opportunity to stretch, grow and gain self-knowledge.

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Jonelle Rose, The Breathing Lady

Jonelle Rose, The Breathing Lady ~ Chaos to Clarity Specialist. Jonelle masterfully guides her clients to circulate, create and magnetize their transformation from the inside out.

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