It is common for people to harbor anger about someone in their lives. The reasons for anger may vary from person to person, but usually what is common about all of them is that the people feeling the anger cannot let themselves to forgive and forget. For some people, this anger may stem from serious issues such as abuse or assault while in others it may be due to minor issues. If you harbor anger towards a particular person in your life, it may be time to forgive.
There are many reasons why you may hold on to the anger. You may think that you are hurting the person by being angry. But does it really hurt the other person? No, it does not. It only hurts you. So why hold on to anger? It is better to get rid of the anger within yourself and forgive. Here are 5 steps to help you on your path to true forgiveness.
1. Examine why you are angry
There must be a reason why you are angry at someone. Unless you are dealing with an issue of assault or abuse, it may be difficult for you to pinpoint the real reason of anger. Once you find what that root cause is, you can go about finding the solution to deal with it. Think about ways to make the situation better. If it is possible, try to find positive things about the person instead of focusing on the negative. If you find it intolerable to be with the person, think about what you can do avoid him for a short time.
2. Don't be the Victim
When you hold on to the anger against someone, you are the victim. To stop being the victim any longer, you have to think about what you learnt from your experience with the concerned person. When you decide to learn from the experience, not only do you grow as a person, you also allow yourself to stop the vicious cycle of unforgiveness and resentment.
3. Letting it Go
After you decide that the bad experience with a specific person is something you have learnt from, you have to let it all go. For this, you need to tell yourself again and again that what happened is past and nothing will make it affect your present and future.
4. Meditate
Think about the person you want to forgive in a meditative state. Allow yourself to think about him with compassion in your heart.
5. Pray to God
Turn the whole thing over to God and ask him to allow you to not be the judge of that person.
I would recommend you to follow above mentioned tips and give way to peace in your life by getting rid of anger and forgiveness.
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